Raising children and the church
I just returned this week from the World Congress of Families IV in Warsaw, Poland. This is supposedly the largest pro-family organization in the world with over 3,300 delegates participating in this year’s congress. Among the dizzying statistics cited regarding the demographic winter of Europe (steadily decreasing birthrates leading to negative population growth) and the demise of the traditional family around the world, I heard the following statistic: “Teen girls from intact families with frequent religious attendance averaged the fewest sexual partners (0.47) when compared to (a) their peers from non-intact families with frequent religious attendance (0.93), (b) peers from intact families with low to no religious attendance (1.14), and (c) peers from non-intact families with low to no religious attendance (1.55)†(cited here by the speaker). As the father of two young girls, this statistic scares me. Of course statistics can be made to say almost anything, but the general idea is that daughters of intact families who frequently attend religious services are much less likely to have pre-marital sexual partners—and if they do, there are usually fewer partners. On the positive side, we can say that churchgoers in intact families are less likely to have daughters who participate in pre-marital sexual activity. On the negative side, it still shows quite a bit of sexual activity on the part of churchgoing teenage girls from intact families.
So, what can we do with this information? First, we need to proclaim from the mountaintops the importance of the intact (not divorced/separated), traditional (one man, one woman) family. Second, we need to cry out to God from our knees for the grace and wisdom to raise our children in the fear and admonition of the Lord. Taking your kids to church is not the solution—walking with the Lord and trusting His wisdom for parenting is. Even if we do everything perfectly, we are not guaranteed perfect children. However, we can rest in the words of Solomon in Proverbs 22:6, which reads, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.â€